Stop Abandoning Yourself
“Your relationship with yourself is an actual relationship. Treat it as such.” -Ibbie
We spend so much time searching for people we can pour our love into.⠀
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We over-invest, go above and beyond, nurture them, care for them, learn their wants, needs and likes and go to the ENDS OF THE EARTH to provide it for them.⠀
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All while abandoning ourselves in the process.⠀
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We spend much time catering to people who don’t even deserve it. We give our all and don’t spend even a second of that time treating our own selves like we desire to be treated by others.⠀
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We are more concerned about being chosen than about doing the choosing.⠀
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Why? ⠀
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Because we search for our worth outside of ourselves. ⠀
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And that’s what will keep you searching for eternity in the wrong places. ⠀
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Here’s what you can do instead.⠀
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✨LEARN yourself the same way you would learn about someone you’re really interested in. Ask questions. What do I like? What do I need? How does this make ME feel?⠀
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✨ SPEND enjoyable time with yourself the same way you desire for enjoyable times with others.⠀
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Spend it with yourself instead. And ENJOY it. What do you like to do? GO DO IT. What do you like to eat? GO EAT IT. What do you like to listen to or watch? GO WATCH AND LISTEN.⠀
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No need to wait around for someone who may or may not show up. ⠀
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✨FIND your worth in other things.⠀
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What are you good at? What is the light you bring to the earth? What is your purpose? What is that special something you have? What do you love about yourself? ⠀
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✨TREAT yourself like someone you’re obsessed with! (not in a conceited way of course haha)⠀
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But you should want to see you happy. You should want to see you THRIVING.⠀
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Make sure you’re taken care of emotionally, physically and mentally. Make sure you pour into yourself. Make sure you check in with yourself. Make sure you show up for yourself. ⠀
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You deserve the love you keep trying to chase other people down with.⠀
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Take care of your relationship with you. Once you do that, you’ll be a lot less likely to accept people into your life that don’t nurture you the way you nurture yourself. ⠀
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Always remember, you deserve THE BEST.⠀
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